Betrayal

 

If you claim to be my family, and if I claim you as mine, then you are held to a very specific standard. You are a part of my family, you are a part of my life, you hold a place in my heart and THAT is an honor. I defend my family with everything in me, right, wrong or indifferent, it doesn't matter. But when abuse starts, verbal, emotional, physical, mental, financial or otherwise consider yourself dead to me. I will burry you in the graveyard of my mind, hold a celebration and watch your memory burn. I am not one to play these games and as we all have seen I am also not one to let the memory of your betrayal die.


I may not have the ability to hate, but I do have the ability to hold others accountable for their bad actions. Call me out to my face if you have so much against me, but do NOT turn into a bully and treat those who love me badly because you have a personal problem. So to the man I chose to call father, let into my life, trusted, chose to become an official member of his clan, accepted his leadership and family structure, held everything together while he grieved the losses in his family, had a mental break and got sick, held his secrets and played his stupid games with, yeah fuck you you abusive pile of shit. You spoke badly on everyone within your clan, lied about your "children" violated their consent multiple times, caused division intentionally and chose to be a massive asshole to anyone calling you out. 


I left peacefully, I left silently and I left without drama. I chose to walk the hell away, and you chose to be the steaming pile of manure that you are. You chose to slander my name, you chose to spread further lies and you chose to become the very thing you were trying to stop. You said grow a thicker skin, the jokes on you as you caved to a single keystroke "leave server" and you snapped. So "father" what is it that you are scared of? Are you scared that I will expose you? Are you scared that I might know your secrets? Are you scared that I might tell your wife the truth? The truth of you having never been married and not having a crazy ex wife? Or the truth of you having 2 fellony assault cases? Or maybe the fact that your "jokes" about rat poison are not jokes? Are you scared that YOU chose to get high in the middle of the night and spill your guts to the only person who answered? Are you scared that you are imploding on yourself? Because, well I won't. But if she finds the information on her own... well I won't stop her. If she reads this, I won't stop her. If she runs a background check on YOU I won't stop her. But you thought your mask was so secure, it would never slip right? Well that's what Paranoia does, don't you remember? 


It sucks because I wasn't going to write this, I wasn't going to speak ill on you. But then you went and did the one thing no-one should ever do the person who is well versed in revenge, you lied on me, you lied to my loved ones and in turn, you dug your own grave. Now lay in your hole, that you dug and be buried in your own lies. Let your lies consume you as they so clearly already are. Let yourself be consumed by the facts that simply disprove you. You are no longer anything to me.

Have the day you deserve, and if it's meant to find you, it will. If it is meant to find her, it will. the fact is that all that is done in the dark will always come to light. May your Karma be swift.

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