My Life in a nutshell

 Sometimes maturing is just saying "it is what it is" And it is what it is.

When adoption is Brought up by adoptees so often it is a conversation met with denial, justifications, excuses and more often than not defensiveness from adoptive parents (APs), hopeful adoptive parents (HAPs), foster parents (Fps) and even social workers.  At first it is the involved families, then it expands to more people and as we tell our stories as adopted people we meet other adoptees who support us, but we massively encounter strangers with agendas far more often.   So often we are called bitter and hateful, we are labeled as angry and vengeful, we are called ungrateful for the "saviors" of the stories we have been told.  There are so many stories about loss, good parents, young mothers, lack of community support, lack of family support and pressure from outside sources to relinquish custody.  There are so many truths mixed into the lies, so many similar "SAVIOR" stories that we as adoptees are told, however they are massively untrue. I could start with stat...